I was introduced to table-top role playing games back in 1986 as a 12 year old girl. I instantly fell in love with the swashbuckling derring-do of high fantasy, the hopeful horizons of space operas, the post apocalyptic grit of cyber punk, and just about everything in between. The grandiose fantasies in the minds of myself and my friends were given an outlet. We spent hours together, laughing, exploring, triumphing, and facing tragedy. And when we were back at school, we had wonderful stories to re-live over lunch. Although it was make-believe, there was something very real about our shared experience, together we were exploring ideas and problem-solving. It was a proving ground of sorts, and so much fun.
Fast-forward to the 2010’s, TTRPG’s are in a major comeback, and my kids are wanting to play. But things are a little different. They have a myriad of entertainments at their fingertips: television, movies, video games, and cell phones. The way they think of playing a game is way different than when I was their age. It was harder for them to find a friend willing to run the games for them, and they worried way more about being correct and doing it properly than I ever worried about.
There is a theme to everything I write about: life hands me a problem, I find a solution, and then share it with you. So I bought the latest edition of the Dungeons and Dragons books, some colorful plastic dice, and got to work. I became the Dungeon Master for my kids and their friends. I hosted them in my home once a week, provided snacks, and a game for them all to learn the basics.
And now it is 2024. Most of those kids that were at my table are young adults now! I still run games for my youngest child and his friends. My oldest son went on to become a DM of some merit, as his friends are always looking forward to his games. My daughters still play with friends occasionally. I would love to know if those other kids went on to run their own games or continued to play.
I know I have left out the details of how I run games. I will, in the future, write in more detail, and provide you with some ideas you can use to run a game for your own children and friends. And you really should consider running a game for your kids if they are interested. The rewards far outweigh the effort it takes.
I have been able to get to know my kids friends, engage with them, and help share a rewarding hobby with them. I got to play the game that meant so much to me in a new way. I got to provide a fun and welcoming environment, and give the parents of my players a few hours break every week. I loved spending time with my own kids, and making fun memories. I’m so thankful to have these experiences. I am honored that the kids came back week after week, excited to be playing at my table again.
I want you to consider doing the same. It is not about making the perfect game or being the perfect DM. It is about being there with your kids, spending time together, and building those bonds. It is about getting to know their friends, and being a bright spot in their lives. It is about building relationships with their parents. It is about sharing a hobby that will light the fires of imagination. It is about community. And it is so darn fun.
Do you play TTRPG’s? Or did in the past? What is your favorite? Any questions you’d like to ask? Comment below and I will get back to you.
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